From Bitter to Better: The Necessary and Difficult Journey to Second Chances (Ep. 1)

Some moments in life alter the course of who we are. For Ron J Stefanski, that moment came with the heartbreaking loss of his grandmother—a Polish immigrant who had stepped in to raise him after his mother passed, giving his childhood a foundation of love, steadiness, and strength. She was his anchor, his safe place, his teacher in life’s truest lessons – lessons that would later deepen his belief in second chances.

Her life was taken suddenly and tragically. Such a loss could have left only anger and bitterness behind. Yet Ron, carrying the values she had lived by, chose another way. He resolved to honor her memory not in words alone, but through a life devoted to lifting others up—especially those written off or left behind.

Today, with many young people trapped in cycles of incarceration and communities wrestling with the harm caused when young lives are pulled into violence, the need to talk about second chances feels more pressing than ever. Research from the Bureau of Justice Statistics shows that roughly two-thirds of people released from prison are rearrested within three years—a sobering reminder of how far we still have to go in helping people rebuild their lives.

But can grief and anger be reshaped into a force for good? And can those who have made painful mistakes find their way to a second chance—becoming, in time, a source of healing for others?

In this episode of DisruptED, Ron sits down with John Valverde, President and CEO of YouthBuild Global, for the first in a two-part series. Their conversation is both personal and profound—two men, each shaped by tragedy, exploring the courage it takes to forgive, the responsibility of rebuilding, and the enduring belief that no one should be written off forever.

The conversation delves into…

• John’s journey from serving 16 years in prison to leading a global nonprofit, built on the principles of responsibility, service, hope, and creating second chances.
• The emotional and cultural factors that can drive young people toward destructive choices—and the tools that can help them choose differently.
• How YouthBuild creates pathways for young people who’ve been left behind, combining education, career readiness, and leadership development at over 300 sites worldwide.

John Valverde is the President and Chief Executive Officer of YouthBuild Global, which partners with young people aged 16–24 who are out of school and out of work, helping them gain the skills, credentials, and confidence to change their lives. Born to Costa Rican immigrants and raised in New York City, John was the first in his family to attend college. At 21, a violent act in response to a loved one’s assault led to his incarceration. While serving his sentence, he dedicated himself to education and service, launching programs for fellow inmates and committing to a life of purpose. Since his release, John has become a respected leader in youth empowerment and criminal justice reform, bringing compassion and vision to a global stage.